Patriarchal society and a degenerating culture in India!

Back in the olden times (vedic period), women were given utmost respect and treated as "devi"..They were well qualified and had the freedom to choose their partners. Mughals screwed it all up and then the status of women deteriorated from bad to worse..

Gender bias, female foeticide, rapes, domestic violence, dowry harassment..the list just goes on!!

Most men in India think they're some sort of demi-gods. What they do not realise is that if they REALLY were superior, they would've been capable of giving birth and would've come straight out of bodies of other men..Their mothers happen to be all women and had it not been for those women, they would've landed up in drainage pipes along with millions and millions of other sperms!

Clothes worn by women are in no goddamn way an invitation for a rape. 5-year-olds do not incite men to rape them. A monster will do it any which way! Politicians, morons in khaaps and the thullas need to shut their traps!! We need action, not bakwaas bhaashan!

Blame the totally screwed up upbringing by pathetic parents (surprisingly mothers have a very important role to play here) who pump such ego's and create monsters!! Yes, the training starts at home! Starts with the want of a male child and ends in finding a cow of a girl as a bride who's expected to maintain a mellowed down image and make all the compromises because the chauvinistic goons haven't been brought up to do so. By the time they grow up, the parents have already managed to screw up their personalities beyond repair. It's appalling to see women making things tough for other women!!

A woman isn't there to cook your goddamn  meal or clean up..That expectations is absolutely abhorrent!! If you don't like doing any of that, women don't like it either!! Men have perfectly functional set of hands! If a woman can function like a superwoman, men too can at least be, Robin, if not Batman! The only thing that needs some cleaning is the extremely screwed up chauvinistic brain and the backward mindset of the society!!

I'm not a big fan of the highly shallow and so-called Indian culture. Everything about it sounds so patriarchal and totally unacceptable in the modern world!! And it wasn't supposed to be like that (Ref. Vedas). We have a society that craves for the male child and the female is usually killed inside the womb itself, thereby, horribly screwing up the sex-ratio..

Indian culture is all about a zillion people poking their nose every now and then. A zillion others who come up with shitty moral lectures, that you feel, should be shoved up their backsides..Women are expected to be all composed and take whatever comes their way..Marriages are no bed of roses here..You are bombarded by the constant interference from the over-hyper families of the grooms, who make it horribly difficult for the modern, educated women to live under the same roof..A lot of people don't have a sense of space and do not know where to draw the line and quit getting involved. I don't have any problem with the oldies. It's just the over-indulgent attitude that ticks me off.

More often than not, the woman is expected to be a part of the "guy's family" and mould herself as if she never had an identity of her own. Why should the onus lie only on the woman? Why can't a man work towards being a part of her (side) of the family as well. Yeah, tell the woman to cover herself up, tell her to keep her calm, tell her to make adjustments. How about teaching the boys to behave and treat women right??!! Sadly, it is usually the women who back such atrocious behaviour in boys.

Domestic violence and dowry harassment is yet another issue of prime importance. It is quite rampant, all thanks to the zero results that come out of reported cases and futile attempts of fighting it out in the courts. Justice delayed is clearly justice denied!

If this is what the Indian culture is all about, I love the western way of living!! They at least have a clear sense of space, yet are strongly bonded and the bond probably comes from the sense of space itself! Sense of equality and perfect law and order backs it all up!

It's about time that women break free from these highly patriarchal shackles and live it up! Unless you know your own worth, no one else will! Your life, you live it your way! Raise your voices before it gets too late!

Parents - Puhhhhhlllleeeeezzzz raise your boys well..The society is full of crap already!! Teach them to respect women and not behave like absolute bastards who bring shame to mankind!! Teach them to be sincere, responsible citizens of the nation!!

As for the men who commit crime against women, should be castrated in public, put behind bars for a lifetime. No death sentence would ever suffice the trauma a woman is put through..No awfully painful court cases, no capital punishment straightaway..We need some serious laws! No more beating around the bush and passing the buck!

-Surbhi Tangri

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Values?? Anymore??

I was studying till late last night when I heard people screaming out on the streets. I stepped out immediately for the fear of an accident right outside my complex. It appeared that a group of people had gotten into a brawl. It seemed like yet another case of road-rage.

Two old men in their early 70's were being shoved against their Santro car by a man in his late 50's and his son who was nothing more than a teenager. The father son duo screamed like mad men and manhandled the old men.

As if the two weren't enough against frail old men, the teenager's mother stepped out of her Audi and joined her husband and son. She abused the old men left, right and centre while the son and the father duo caught hold of their collars. The boy had the frigging audacity to say that the old men weren't supposed to be driving on the road. And who's the authority - the teenage boy who probably did not even have a license..??!!

The cars were parked parallel to each other, at least two feet apart, in opposite directions. Clearly the cars had not banged into each other. While the old men's santro was on the correct side of the road - left, the Audi had crossed it's admissible area of driving. The boy probably needed to be taught that in India, we drive on the left side of the road.

One of the old men folded his hands and begged for forgiveness. Wow! The lady forced her husband to sit in their Audi but the mad man refused to shut his trap. His wife sat in the co-driver's seat and after some last minute usage of some more curse words, the teenage son finally sat in the driver's seat and zoomed off. The way he drove, clearly indicated that an accident or another brawl was a few blocks away.

The way the old men were treated sent a chill down my spine and it was excruciating to watch the incident. Such incidents are on the rise.

Does owning an Audi in a country like India give one a right to cross the line of decency? It seems that the neo-rich, most of whom have become rich overnight owing to the sudden property boom, are finding it hard to digest the excess money.


Instead of teaching their kids to be humble and respect the elderly, the Parents foster extreme behaviour, which in some cases leads to serious criminal offences. Why are people losing their cool at the drop of a hat? Why do people not have any tolerance any more? Where is everyone heading? Are these the kind of citizens we want our future generations to turn out to be? Such a shame!!

- Surbhi Tangri

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